Few months ago, I was mentally in a terrible place. I was feeling helpless, angry, depressed, and like my world was imploding in front of me as a result of the circumstance.

I turned to look around, but no one was coming to my aid. I made hasty judgments about the people in my life, deciding that some were useless because they couldn’t support me or relate to my pain and that others were the root of my problem.

Sometimes our expectations make it difficult for us to see the suffering of others or to appreciate what the people in our lives have done for us. Other times, we expect only to receive without realizing that our circumstances and orientations are different.

Irrational judgments like barring people, criticizing them without compassion, or severing all ties with them might be made as a result of confusing circumstances like mine.

I was introduced to J Cole’s music by a friend, and I appreciate him for that. I recommend “Love yourz,” it has been a source of light for me whenever I find myself in a dark place.

Friends have taught me how to love unconditionally, how to appreciate myself and my abilities, how to forgive even in challenging circumstances, and how to rely on myself. I didn’t ask for any of these, and I certainly didn’t anticipate receiving them, but they were all given to me, and they have improved my outlook on life. To me, this gifts are more valuable than money.

Sometimes, the people in our lives won’t give us what we want right away, but if we pay attention, we’ll notice that they frequently give us what we need, either intentionally or unintentionally. Such favors may be used right away or in the future; some come in painful ways, while others come in interesting ways.

It is entirely up to us to define and handle whatsoever card life decides to play. To value the little things, one must be humble.