"You should have picked a sister"I saw this comment in the shaderoom in reference to a post about a man that beat his "white" girlfriend up and she reported him to the police. The commenter insinuated that he should have being dating a black woman instead of a white woman. Black women are thought to stay.We are told that there is reward in staying, stay no matter what. And this does not only apply to black Americans...no. it's black women All over the word. We are told to stay, to pray, to keep our head down...to suffer in silence. We are told there is reward in staying...lol. This reward is that you are called a strong woman...a strong black woman. You are called resilient. You are called a good woman, a good wife, a good mother. I remember reading "the joys of motherhood" as a teenager and thinking I'm not going to be that woman. A wife/mother who gave her all to her family but still got cheated on and died in the streets alone. I do not want to be called a strong womanI do not want to be called resilientI do not want to be called a good wifeI do not want to be called a good mother. I want to be simply ME.